Welcome 2019

Hi there,

Its been a while since I posted – but here I am in 2019.

I trust all y’all had a wonderful festive season and that the new year has started off well.

I had the pleasure of travelling to the USA to visit with my children for the festive season and then the amazing experience of ticking off a 17-year-old bucket list wish.  I got to visit with my BOB (Best online buddy) for a few days in Florida.  It’s something I’d been dreaming of doing since 2001.  The days went by way too quickly though, but I now have such wonderful moments to cherish; until the next time.  I cannot thank her and her husband enough for allowing me into their home.  I definitely left a piece of my heart behind in Florida and intend to visit again.  Oh my, the beach.  The beach is what my salty soul longs for.  We took a drive up to Amelia Island and I fell hopelessly in love.  Next time, I would like to spend a few days exploring more of it.

Do you create new years resolutions?  I don’t!  I gave up on putting that ridiculous pressure on myself some years back.  Instead, I use the ‘word of the year‘ approach which I find way less stressful.  My word for this year is ‘create’.  I have realised that I have mostly buried myself in the last two years and had not created much.  I have spent a lot of time reading and learning to manifest and meditate, but very little time ‘creating’ much more than that.  I stopped creating a home and have simply lived in the cottage I rent.  2016 was a tough year – my 8 year domestic relationship ended, my boys moved to the USA – leaving me an empty nester, I worked at a job where the employer was a bully, I had to give up my pets when I moved to the cottage after the home I’d shared with my domestic partner was sold.  It was a lot to deal with and I realise fully that I have simply been existing.  My ‘home’ still feels like its simply the place I go to change my clothing and sleep.  That needs to change.  I am ready to ‘create’ a home for myself.  I am ready.

So here’s to new years, dreams, schemes, creations, love, joy, happiness and flow.

May yours be truly magical.

A little gallery of pics from my USA – Houston and Florida – Trip

Amelia Island – USA
Beautiful Bella who does not let her Moma out of her sight for a minute. Too precious.
The real reason I travelled to Florida was to spend time with this gorgeous human – My ‘online’ friend of 17 years Judi. 
We stopped to buy fresh Shrimps on our way home – Judi made the most ahhhhmazing shrimp tacos.








Winter look





















I had some fun on Saturday doing a shoot of two of my favourite outfits.  It was real cold and if you look closely, you can see the tip of my nose is very pink.

Back to the look at hand :  (I have posted it previously on my Instagram, but those were just phone pictures as opposed to these pro ones)

The top I got recently at Identity, and I must do a post about the amazing service I experienced at their Cresta branch.

The jacket is a kind of ‘thrift’ find.  I forgot how much wool makes me itch (note to self : don’t wear this jacket with a top that allows it come in contact with your skin).

Jeans are from H&M, and the boots I got at a steal a few years ago from a store in Glenvista which has since closed down.

They were stock that the owner has forgotten about in her garage from a season before at home and she sold them off at around R300.00 a pair.

What are your thoughts?

It’s good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things that money can’t buy.

-George Lorimer

I ran across a new website recently, aimed at women my age (oh this wonderful time of middle age, wrinkles, empty nesting, grey hair and menopause 😉 )  and I’m really enjoying their array of articles.  This one I found particularly interesting Study reveals money buys happiness : do you agree?

I think money buys comfort, experiences and ease and that can definitely allow us to feel happier, less stressed and more content.  Removing mental illness from the debate, I do wonder though if there are any studies done on how many rich compared to poor people commit suicide?  I think I’m going to go google that and see if there are statistics.




This morning I received a short video clip from a friend of a scene from “Married with Children”.  Penny has a magazine with some kind of questionnaire and she asks Al, ‘who would you rather spend the night with? a) Your wife or b)’ and before she finishes asking, he answers ‘b)’.

I get the humour, don’t misunderstand me, but I find it rather sad that there is so much anti marriage/relationship jokes and comments around.

Have we as a society truly lost the plot?

I think we have.

As I have mentioned to two or three friends in the last two weeks, it saddens me to look around and see that there are so few inspiring marriages around.  All around I see people splitting up, living separate lives and on and on and it almost makes me as a singleton feel that there’s not much chance of a healthy committed relationship.

Well, thats my thought this Wednesday morning.

Have a magical day.


Black & grey

Despite not posting here in the last year or so, and also because I hardly ever dressed up in more than just jeans due to never knowing when i’d be running around a building site, I have kept posting on my IG account.

But I thought I’d share a look from yesterday.  A simple black body con skirt, simplest grey t-shirt and divine Aldo heels.  A little black jacket for stepping out the office in.

So excited that my eldest daughter will be arriving this week to visit to her ‘birthplace’ – I can understand if she no longer considers it ‘home’ as she is now an America Citizen and has created an entire life and world for herself there.  I’m super excited (and a little worried) for my Mom as she has no idea that her precious granddaughter is heading our way.

I’ll drop in again real soon – until then, check out my ig, faebook and pinterest links (they’ll be up soon I promise)

Ciao bella, Wendy

Where to with this …

so I’m still ueber undecided the route I want to take with my site now.

I still post sporadic outfits on my instagram – if you’d care to follow me there  … www.instagram.com/perfectly_imperfect_wendy and a new page I’ve started for items I’ll be selling www.instagram.com/stylized_za.

In the meantime, today I want to touch on a subject that is bothering me greatly – WRINKLES!!!   lol … omg – its driving me insane.  I am sure that everyone women is fighting it, and if you’re not – honey start now  …  lol.  I sometimes consider botox and fillers   …   heck, just a full facelift is sounding necessary at this stage.   I take and retake and retake selfies – cringing at the reality.  lol.

And then the thought drifts through my mind .. you’re lucky to have this life, this health etc. etc. etc.

And for that I am grateful – however, it has not stopped the attempt to delay the pull of gravity.

So, I have bought a NuSkin Galvanic Spa and although  I forgot to take pictures before I started using mine, after two treatments when I saw my bestie, she commented that my skin was looking smoother and clearer.  Not sure if its the Galvanic Spa alone or the the massager on the Sorbet facial cleanser I’ve started using again.  Overall though, I am feeling a little happier with how my skin is looking.

So if you pass by here, and you’re over say 45 and dealing with wrinklers, how are you really feeling about it?

Are you considering botox, fillers and a face lift?

What products do you feel are making a real difference?

Do you take collagen supplements, or something else?

Have you tried something like the facelife diet?  Or along those lines, and has it helped?

I’d love some dialogue on this.

In the meantime, love yourself Wendy!